Gardening in Stilettos
 
My beautiful oldest daughter: Diamond
 
My beautiful youngest daughter: Deja
 
Paying attention to the needs of our children is our job as a parent. Deciding how to adhere to that need sometimes is a challenge that we have to overcome to ensure that we produce well rounded individuals in society who are equipped with all the appropriate skills. Over time I have often observed my youngest daughter and how she doesn’t always pay as much attention to her surroundings as I think she needs to. So as her mother I have been thinking of various things that I think could help her become more aware of her surroundings as well as responding in the most appropriate way. 

After some careful consideration, I have decided to research martial arts programs in my area. I have always believe that the things we participate in teach us something whether it’s negative or positive and I think the lessons taught in martial arts teach discipline, the understanding of your body and space as well as what is going on around you.

The search is on…
 
As a parent of a teenager and a young adult, I often think about the roles they will want me to play in their lives as they continue to grow. My girls and I have always had a  very close relationship and it feels good to know that no matter how old they get or what stage in life their in, they always include me in the activities in their life. My oldest daughter is in her 3rd year at the University of Baltimore. She is an excellent student and often participate in campus affairs that she will invite me to. This week we attended a one person show that was choreographed by one of her professors. It was a very interesting piece. But what was most interesting at the end of the performance, was that other professors and students were surprised my daughter asked me to attend. This lead to dialogue regarding how parents and their kids relate through the stages in their lives.

I'm glad my girls always want me to be a part of their learning and growth, it definitely makes me a proud mom. I try to be available for my kids to support them in their interest I think it has made a tremendous difference in how we relate to one another.